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The Happiness Series : #3 ‘Simple Principle’

This is the third blog in ‘The Happiness series’ in which ‘Love’ & ‘Passion’ were covered. Once the series is completed, perhaps we will have created a ‘Happiness Bracelet’ which each of us can own for a happier self & world around us

 #3  ‘Simple Principle’

Pursuit of wealth to acquire greater material comfort, occupies our mind space disproportionately. We harbour an opinion- that greater the physical comfort, the more is our happiness. Unfortunately in my opinion this is incorrect, as creature comfort is a temporary feeling of fulfilment. Why is it so?………..Because a feeling of wellbeing lasts till we identify our next reason for dissatisfaction, despite having no cause for complaint, or till we tire of the comfort we have acquired. The cycle repeats itself and we again feel unhappy and so strive to be wealthier.  The outcome of this is that we are continuously pre occupied with our attempts to acquire more material pleasure.  Consequently we don’t pause in our routine stride to spend a few moments looking around us.

I had been no different and kept acquiring more expensive toys with growing affluence. Each car and gizmo was more expensive than the earlier to achieve happiness. Each time there was a feeling of accomplishment which lasted a few weeks or months. But one day, a few months back, I taking photographs in the back yard. While returning into the house, I saw the glass vase which was placed on the dining table. The sunlight through the window had lit up the vase full of flowers. It was a serene moment while nature was showcasing it’s splendour. It was not dramatic but I unexpectedly found myself appreciating a simple moment.

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There is a larger world out there, where the overwhelming majority are barely existing. They grateful for whatever little they have been given. The only choice they have, is to take pleasure from little moments because the dollar does not go far. Deriving the maximum joy out of life around us or inexpensive pursuits can be termed as the ‘Simple Principle’.

Make time to search for the simple moments around us and you will begin to learn that the essence of life’s simplicity. Gradually your life will become uncomplicated and instead of physical comfort you will experience the pleasure of happiness.

However be cautioned that ‘Simplicity’ is a state of mind which enables you to see what is not obvious – and it takes time to train ourselves to understand the ‘Simple Principle’. Go ahead and practise before time runs out……..it nearly did for me at around 1130 hrs on 1st July 2011.

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Whats App group: An accidental inclusion

Being inquisitive is not my nature but there are exceptions.

I have never been privy to any conversation between a closed group of married ladies. Due to a strict gender discrimination against male members, there was no chance of being invited to any ‘Kitty’ party. That has not stopped me from imagining conversations around topics, which I am sure are not flattering to spouses. Honesty demands that I confess to many clandestine attempts to overhear such conversations, sometimes at the risk of my personal safety. Previous close shaves from the clutches of angry groups of married ladies still make me sweat. So till date I have remained curious about the going-ons in these groups. What I have learned from a couple of women, who were momentarily indiscreet, is that there is some disdain when discussing the spouse and lots of advice/guidance to the newly married women. There is hearty laughter also, especially when the discussions gets focused on redundancy.

By a ‘one in a zillion chance’, I have been that mistakenly added by a friend to a Whats App married ladies group. It is obvious that I will be ‘quiet like a church mouse’ in this group to learn about women and their aspirations. This also presents me with an opportunity to deepen the bonds with my counterparts. Those husbands who would like to know & discuss the exchanges in this group can contact me on this blog. The membership fee shall be $10 or equivalent per month per husband.

6 BANANAS – The unexpected stepping stone to success

Siddharth entered the waiting room to read the charts on display. These were about the medical tests to identify various physical disabilities. He read the qualifying requirements charts for eye sight, height, chest, etc and the last one pertained to weight. It was written that for 178 centimetres, which was his height, the qualifying requirement was fifty eight kilograms. He could feel his chest tighten with anxiety because he was about a kilogram underweight, at the best – or perhaps even more. He went out of the room to catch his breath and relax his shattered nerves. Sanjeev was still sitting on the bench, waiting to be called in for his medical examination.

“What happened Siddharth? You look worried” asked Sanjeev, concerned to see Siddharth looking uneasy.

“I think I am marginally underweight” replied Siddharth sadly.

“Hmm. The army is very strict about medical fitness. Deepak was disqualified due to knock knees”

“Are you sure?! I know Deepak” Siddharth exclaimed in disbelief.

“I met him outside the medical room. He looked devastated”

“All the best for your medicals Sanjeev. Hope to meet you in the academy”

“Thank you Siddharth and I wish you luck as well”

“Which one of you is Sanjeev Dogra?” said Lieutenant (Dr.) Rana of the army medical corps who came out of the examination room.

“Yes sir” said Sanjeev standing up. He then followed the doctor into the examination room.

Siddharth became worried that his dreams of joining the army in the footsteps of his illustrious father could end. A loud voice suddenly jolted him from these thoughts of despair and a feeling of despondency.

“Are you Siddharth Sharma?”

“Yes sir” replied Siddharth looking up from the floor to find Dr. Rana standing in front of him.

“Is it true that your father is the famous retired Lt. General Sharma of the Bengal Sappers, Corps of Engineers?”

“Yes sir”

“And you are very keen to join the army?”

‘Yes sir”

“You look slightly underweight to me”

“Yes sir. It is likely that I am about a kilogram less than the requirement”

“Hmmm” responded the lieutenant looking carefully at Siddharth.

A few moments silence followed which seemed like eternity to Siddharth. He wondered if his worst fear was going to be confirmed by this smart lieutenant, even before his medical examination was conducted.

“It is now 12 noon. Have you eaten since breakfast?” the lieutenant inquired politely.

“No sir” replied Siddharth, rather surprised at the question.

“You will be examined in half an hour from now. There is a cafeteria in the building behind this examination room. Perhaps you may like to go over now and eat six bananas. Then you can return for your examination” said the Lieutenant before returning to the examination room.

Siddharth was puzzled at this suggestion from the doctor, but he thought that he detected a twinkle in his eyes. It would be sensible to comply with this suggestion because later Dr. Rana could be examining him. So he slung his satchel over his shoulder and walked over to the cafeteria.

“How much for a banana?” he asked the man behind the counter.

“Five rupees” replied the man without looking up.

“Okay, I’ll take six” said Siddharth handing over the money and gathering up the bananas. The man took out a bag for carrying the bananas.

“No need for the bag. I will eat the bananas here”

“Are you sure?” asked the man as he could not see anyone else accompanying Siddharth.

He sat at one of the tables in the cafeteria and stared at the bananas in front of him. All the bananas appeared much larger than the bananas he usually ate. Or was it his imagination, he wondered. It was a daunting for him to eat six bananas at one sitting. Nevertheless he took a deep breath and picked up the first banana. While three were eaten without much effort, he was feeling sick by the time the last banana remained on the table. The man behind the counter of the cafeteria was observing Siddharth all this while. He watched with astonishment when sixth banana was eaten slowly assisted by gulps of water. Siddharth’s stomach felt heavy after having eaten so many bananas together. There was a strong urge to throw up immediately. It took great restraint to keep his composure. After another five minutes, he got up and slowly walked to the examination room. He went and sat on the bench, hoping to successfully complete the stringent medical examinations. A few minutes later Sanjeev came out of the examination room looking downcast.

“What happened? Did you clear the tests?” he inquired from Sanjeev.

“No Siddharth. It was my bad luck to be detected with colour blindness. Anyway the army was not the preferred option for me. I only wanted to clear it for my own satisfaction. Good Luck to you” he said walking away towards the cafeteria. Now Siddharth got anxious that some medical problem unknown to him may disqualify him from selection.

Siddharth was called in for his medical examination at 12.30 p.m. He entered the room cautiously and was dismayed that Dr Rana was not present in the room. Instead there was another doctor who was inside, who beckoned Siddharth to sit on the stool next to him. He went on to explain about the various medical tests that would be conducted. Siddharth relaxed as he heard the reassuring voice of the doctor. When the doctor had completed, the nursing assistant who was also in the room started conducting the medical tests. Siddharth uneventfully cleared all the qualifying parameters of each test. While he felt more reassured with each positive results, he was aware that his weight will be the last medical examination. When he got up for his weight to be taken, his anxiety returned. The instant he saw the weighing scale his hopes vanished. The digital display on the scales would give the read out to the third decimal. There was no possibility of an incorrect reading.

“Stand on the weighing scales with your chest out and eyes front!” barked the nursing assistant.

Siddharth dutifully obeyed the instructions of the nursing assistant. He could hear his heartbeat in his ears while he stood on the scales. The nursing assistant bent down and seemed to take a long time adjusting the machine. He then straightened up and stood directly in front of the display. Siddharth could not see the readout! ‘If only I had gone to the gym for the past few months for some physical training’ thought Siddharth in despair while he was standing on the scales. He feared the worst as he waited for the nursing assistant to announce the result.

“58.310 kilograms” announced the assistant

Siddharth gave out an audible sigh of relief as this was 310 grams above the qualifying requirement. He took a chance to momentarily glance down at the report from the corner of his eye. The word ‘cleared’ was written by the nursing assistant on the medical report. However he would never know if eating bananas was the reason he cleared the medical examination. The dream to join the army had become a reality. He went out of the medical examination centre feeling elated at his success.